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libertygrl
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Posted 05/01/12 - 7:40 PM:
Subject: Shaming children
Apparently the trend of publicly humiliating one's children has come to light:

blog.sfgate.com/sfmoms/2012...-facebook-to-teach-lesson/

What do you guys think? Is it an acceptable form of discipline for children?
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Posted 05/02/12 - 10:13 AM:

I'm less interested in the public humiliation aspect than in why Mom decided to advertise herself.

Seems whoring one's self (and one's woes) is commonplace.

As for the public humiliation as discipline: a bit extreme, especially for just being a mouthy kid.
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Posted 05/02/12 - 11:59 AM:

I am not sure if this form of chastising is good or not, because honestly speaking I cannot come up with an appropriate replacement, or may be I would just go without exercising any disciplinary action, which might ruin childrem morally( I am not too sure about this either!)

A. Rearing children is easier said than done. I think almost everyone around me accepts it usually. My opinion is that how would a father or mother who is immensly conscious, let hesh children get away with everything without discipline, as they are never too sure about anything in their own lives, which is to say that more perceptive parents must find it difficult to give moral guidance to their children. If they are ever wondering about right and wrong and because of their acute awareness and immense sensitivity they are ever wondering about reality, how are they going to instill rotten social values into their kids.


B. The first law of behavioral Psychology states that "You get more of what you reinforce." If you reinforce the behavior of "Do things right, else face public humiliation," in your children, it might backfire in two ways: a) The child might get trauma and might develop a complex against mob because of humiliation. Parents might think that canning and chastising in public is a good thing do because of their ignorance about the degree of sensitivity of a small and healthy young brain.

b) The pain which is caused by public humiliation is a prize to be paid for a misdoing, which might make a few children too callous. Why not to inculcate good values by softer means. What I am trying to say is: If you try reinforcing this public martinet act too often, the child might just not yield with anything else. Nothing with a lesser gravity will work with such a child.
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Posted 05/02/12 - 12:02 PM:

henry quirk wrote:
I'm less interested in the public humiliation aspect than in why Mom decided to advertise herself.

Seems whoring one's self (and one's woes) is commonplace.

As for the public humiliation as discipline: a bit extreme, especially for just being a mouthy kid.



It's not commonplace in my opinion. I think that such parents themselves have self-esteem issues and they might have undergone such rigorous regimes in their childhood, which hardly leaves any sensitivity in them to come up with more creative ways of molding personality of their children.
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Posted 05/02/12 - 2:56 PM:

I amend myself: seems commonplace here in America.

Every damn talk show and news broadcast features some dillweed and his or her parenting/family/children/etc. issues.

Whatever happened to just dealing with it, on one's own, without a public display?

Oh, I forgot: human beings are 'social animals'...not a one can fart without waving the smell over to another then asking 'is my smell acceptable?'.

So very glad to be something 'other than'.
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Posted 05/03/12 - 3:39 PM:

I think you make a good point Henry - this might even relate to Thinker's boredom topic - people of America vying for their "15 minutes of fame".

Humiliating one's children in public seems very extreme to me and in my opinion makes the parents seem like bullies themselves.
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