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libertygrl
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Posted 07/21/11 - 12:57 PM:
Subject: What makes a good friend?
Was just curious what a "good" friendship means to most folks...

Do you have any or many close friends? What is it about them that qualifies them as being a "close" friend in your view? What is it about them that qualifies them as being a "good" friend?

What distinguishes between a friend and an acquaintance?
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Posted 07/21/11 - 1:43 PM:

A friend. Somebody that, if you don't see them for years, would still drive hours on end to meet you.
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Posted 07/21/11 - 2:39 PM:

someone once told me that their definition of a good friend is someone you very rarely see but when you do see them, you are always happy to see them (and you always have a nice time together)
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Posted 07/21/11 - 3:15 PM:

to me, a good friend is someone who is honest, who doesn't insult me, and that i can get along with well enough to have fun hanging out. someone i probably see on average 3 or more times a year. a close friend is someone i can confide in. i'd say i have about 3 or 4 close friends, including my sister.
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Posted 07/22/11 - 3:15 AM:

Having met some really nice people at facebook, one of it is my old schoolmate, I’m really happy to have someone I can share my thoughts and knowledge with.
Plus she’s honest to me when saying that I keep pushing her intellect quite hard, which is very much true as far as I see.
We have quite a lot in common when talking about fringe science, things which do exist, but denied by orthodox scientist ;-)
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Posted 08/02/11 - 6:58 PM:

Good question!

People I've considered good friends have been those who have been willing to tolerate me intimately and defend me otherwise, somehow seeing my honest intent through my mistakes, prejudices, faults and inconsistencies. I've had eleven such friends throughout my lifetime of 55 years and seven of them are family (my five children, my partner and my mother).

The question that haunts me is: have I been a good friend?
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Posted 08/03/11 - 11:53 AM:

cripes wrote:
The question that haunts me is: have I been a good friend?

a good question too. i try to be a good friend, at least the kind of friend i would hope others to be for me. some people seem to have radically different concepts and expectations of their friends, though, which can alienate a person who is not of a like mind. chemistry seems to be a factor too in holding friendships together. sometimes you meet a person who is perfectly nice and you get along with them fine but you never feel drawn into friendship with them.
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Posted 08/03/11 - 12:12 PM:

libertygrl wrote:

a good question too. i try to be a good friend, at least the kind of friend i would hope others to be for me. some people seem to have radically different concepts and expectations of their friends, though, which can alienate a person who is not of a like mind. chemistry seems to be a factor too in holding friendships together. sometimes you meet a person who is perfectly nice and you get along with them fine but you never feel drawn into friendship with them.


I do not have concrete ideas on this subject matter to begin with, therefore, let me blabber for a while. I do not think that there should be too stringent criterion for classifying someone as a friend. In general, anyone with whom you can hold a good conversation, or, share your feelings is your friend. Broadly speaking, you yourself, books, movies, music can also be your friends.

As an example: I consider Monk2400,Henry, Morgena and Willem as my friends. Whether they share the same feeling is not very important; the important thing is: I feel their presence by their thoughts and often say: Yes, I agree ( Or I do not agree!)


I had interacted with a classmate in my school days, whom I consider my friend: May be first friend in school. We used to get along very well with each other. It continued until I was 10; then, he had to get relocated to some other city and we could not interact much---thereafter, to this day, I tried many times; to contact him by various means possible-but I could not contact him.
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